I too agree with the other writers that to be an effective communictor you have to listen. We need to stop talking so much, and take the time to clear our minds, this allows us to be able to listen to someone else. We should allow the speaker to completely express themselves, before we response. Then you want to summarize, what you have heard., before responing. This lets the speaker know that you were listing, and it provides clarifty to the converstation, and makes for a more appropriate response.