Lou Tice

People who are essentially good sometimes do bad things. However, how do you handle it when a family member behaves in ways that hurt others and themselves? Sometimes, it is hard to know what to do. We may feel both angry and concerned, and they may not welcome hearing about either feeling.

Sometimes we feel so concerned that we make the mistake of covering for them, trying to smooth things over so they stay out of trouble. We try to keep the consequences of their behavior at bay. Or, we may issue ultimatums, demanding behavior change or else. Often, though,… >>>

Most people who have near-death experiences report some common feelings. Why do you think that is?

Now, I am not talking about what their experience of death is like. I am referring to their attitude toward life. Almost every one reports feeling more connected to humanity and less concerned about self.

In 1973, when Stevie Wonder came out of a four-day coma after an automobile accident, he deepened his commitment to helping his fellow man. "I will not be operating so much 'on' time as 'in' time," he said, meaning that he would strive to help others before it was… >>>

Do you realize just how much you've got going for yourself?

You know, something I do a lot for my grandchildren is remind them of how much they have going for themselves.  I remind them of how much they are loved, how quickly they learn new things, how much fun they are to be around, how cooperative and helpful they are. I help them concentrate and focus on the plusses in their lives, because I know that is a very useful habit to have.

How about you?  How long has it been since you've taken a few minutes to list… >>>

What if you inherited a machine that was guaranteed to make you happy, but you had no idea how to operate it?

Now, if you are like most folks, you'd probably move heaven and earth until you figured out how it worked, wouldn't you? The fact is, you were born with all the resources to make yourself very happy and successful. Unfortunately, you didn't arrive with an instruction manual.

It has been left up to you to figure it out. Isn't it strange, then, that most folks don't even bother? They don't read psychology, they don't take classes or seminars… >>>

How is a goal different from a wish or hope?  First of all, let's look at how they are similar. Each one is a good thing to have, and each concerns something we'd like to see happen in the future.

A wish or hope is something we long for, like children wishing on a star or a birthday wish when we blow out the candles on a cake. But it is not likely to be something we think about very much. And, if it should happen to come true, we may think of it as a miracle, something we might… >>>

Driving in to work today, it was pretty easy to notice that there are a lot of angry people out there. Angry adults, unfortunately, provide angry role models for the children in their lives. All of us, not just parents and grandparents, should be concerned about teaching our children to deal with anger in nonviolent ways. Today, I will give some tips on how to do this.

Violence, which to me is intense anger expressed in a way that hurts others, is something no parent wants their children to experience. Yet, I find that very few know what to do… >>>

Do you know any parents who are determined to raise model children? I hope not, because in my opinion a model child isn't such a great idea. I will tell you what I mean.

When it comes to raising children, I am all for an intelligent and loving approach. There are psychological principles of teaching and learning that have been proven to work effectively. If we understand and use these principles, we can teach our children, from toddler-hood through adolescence, how to regulate themselves without a great deal of intervention.

But what will be the result? Will we then be… >>>

A lot of us grew up with the notion that we are free people, able to choose where we live, what we do for a living, and to come and go at will. But many people, although certainly free in these ways, are emotional prisoners. Have you ever thought about what it means to be emotionally free?

Dr. David Viscott, a well-known psychiatrist, said that emotional freedom means that you can do what you want, when you want to do it. You see, when you are emotionally free, you believe in your own goodness and you act to increase your… >>>

I am not a psychologist, but I have been studying and teaching effective human behavior for over 40 years. It has been my life's work. Today I want to talk about the inner child and what it means when it comes to adult growth and development.

All of us have had the experience of being a child, and most of us have no trouble at all being tender and compassionate toward the children we know.  But when adults find themselves feeling or behaving in a childish way, they often react with horror.

It is important to realize that growing up… >>>

What does a sense of having control over your life have to do with successful aging?

When we enter the last phase of life, we experience certain losses that can't really be avoided. However, having a sense of control over our lives is a very important factor in how successfully we age.

An important study by Harvard researchers, conducted in a nursing home, is a case in point. One group of residents took charge of their daily living activities, including dressing, eating, personal hygiene and maintaining their own environments. A second group had all these functions taken care of for… >>>