I want to ask you a question with far-reaching implications: Would you rather be right or happy? Today, we are going to look at several possible answers.

Some people sacrifice a lot in order to be right, because they think the way to be right is to make other people wrong. They spend a lot of time and effort doing so. Of course, people who are set up to appear wrong or poorly informed aren't crazy about the feeling, so those who make others look bad, also make themselves disliked.

People who need to be right don't take many risks either, and they avoid uncertainty like the plague. Many times they would rather lie than say, "I'm not sure," or "Gee, I don't know."

On the other hand, people who would rather be happy than right, don't care much about how smart they look. They realize that we are all on a learning curve. They know that the best way to help each other grow is to stop competing and start cooperating.

You see, life isn't about showing other people up. It is about helping each other to see. I mean, how much happier are you when you are working with someone toward a goal, than working against someone?

Each of us gets to decide for ourselves what and how much we want to look at, and whether we are willing to give - and accept - help. We also get to choose whether we are going to be right or happy.

Sometimes we can do both. But if you had to pick just one, which choice would it be?