What is the difference between things you need and things you want? For some people, there really isn't a difference.

All of us have legitimate needs. We need to have food to eat, water to drink, air to breathe. But, all too often, when we listen closely to how we talk to ourselves and others, we will hear about all kinds of pressing "needs": "I need to get that promotion."  "I need to sit by the window."  "I need her to call me."  "I need you to stand up for me."

And, most often, we will also hear about the tension and stress that go along with these so-called needs, because, after all, what if we don't get what we need?

It is a sign of real maturity when we can upgrade most of our needs to wants or preferences, and it is a sure-fire way to lower our stress quotient, as well. For example, supposing the status-giving promotion you needed so badly doesn't come through.  You are devastated, right?

But what if you change your thinking from a need to a preference?  Sure, you wanted the recognition that promotion would have brought, but you are not going to drop dead without it, and there are many good things about your present job, too.  Maybe your desire for recognition can be met in some other way. Volunteer work, for instance.

See what I mean? There is a whale of a difference in how you experience life when you make this shift. Try it and see.