It's tough to be a good grandparent when your grandchildren are many miles away - but it can be done. Long-distance grand-parenting takes some special attention and creativity if it is to result in the kind of close feelings that transcend miles on the map. Here are some distance-solving tips for you that will help.

First, make the most of the mail. It's fine if the letters are brief, as long as they are frequent. While you are waiting for food at a restaurant, write a note on the paper place mat and send it, or clippings of cartoons that make your grandchild smile. Use colorful stickers and stamps, and include a self-addressed, stamped envelope if it will speed a response.

E-mail has quickly become a wonderful way to maintain a day-to-day relationship. A quick message every morning, or one that has arrived by the time your grandchild returns home from school, makes a positive impact. They will look forward to them. I know of one grandmother, confined to her home most of the time, who sends e-cards to her granddaughter, created from a program on a computer that she didn't buy until she was well into her 70's.

Video conferencing is terrific, and getting easier by the day. So much can now be done via video emails! Record a favorite children's story to be played at bedtime, or a one-of-a-kind message filled with love and your special self-esteem building assurances. The point is, "be there" for your grandchildren, even if you can't be there with them. Celebrate their successes, create special days just for them. You will never regret it, and they will love you for it.