These days, more and more people are aware of the connection between self-esteem and illness. In 1985, my wife, Diane, was stricken with cancer. For many people, that would mean a death sentence. The doctor tells them they don't have much hope, they start telling themselves they're going to die, and friends and family treat them like they're not long for the world. It's only natural that their body gets a strong death message. Next thing you know, they're going downhill fast.

When we got the news about Diane's cancer, it was a shock, but we went right into action. We found a doctor who believed Diane could be treated successfully. We educated ourselves about how to fight it, and we surrounded her with all the support and love we could gather. Diane changed her diet to strengthen her immune system, and affirmed her own healing constantly with words, pictures and emotions. She accepted advice, but only when she believed it was really helpful, and she was the final authority when it came to decisions about her body.

Cancer survival rates are climbing every year. Diane is only one of a multitude of people who have beaten cancer, and the research shows that there is one thing survivors all have in common: high self-esteem and a strong belief in their ability to control their own destiny. And when surrounded by strong, positive support systems, well, anyone will tell you that it's more fun to walk this road with company than it is to walk it alone.

Those living with cancer don't believe they caused their illness, but they accept accountability for dealing with it. They refuse to be victims or give up hope - and hope is the most powerful medicine in the world. Popular books by Drs. Bernie Siegel and Deepak Chopra emphasize the same thing. Take the pro-active approach and work towards a better mind-set, thus a better chance.