I typically do give advice while listening, which comes from the best of intentions. However, reading this article helped me realize that, actually, what most people what is to be understood and validated. Reflecting on my personal experiences when others listen to me, I realize that I feel the best when I am understood and validated. It is a bit invalidating to have someone tell you to do something other than what you are doing, though they are coming from a good place. So from now on, I will practice this act of listening, reflecting with paraphrasing and validation of who I am listening to.